Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Evolution of Relationships

What the HELL is wrong with me?
That I only fall for men
Who cannot see
The value of an intelligent woman.

So I give and I give
And they take and they take.
Until what’s left?
Nothing but a shell of the woman I used to be.
Because I gave all I could
And nothing was ever returned to me.

But then I start to think
It’s not me at all.
Maybe it’s just society.
That we’ve become nothing but a race
Of takers
Who only value “What’s in it for me?”

Perhaps that’s why the numbers
Of single mothers
Keeps rising.
Because all these men think of is what they can take.
And not what they might leave her with.
Or what that child would give
To have a father
Who gives a damn.

We call this a time of science and progress.
But is this progress really?
When we navigate our days alone
And never learn to express
Love for anyone- but ourselves.

Maybe THAT’S why
No one can commit
Because these days commitment would take too much
Sharing of ourselves when all we want is the benefit
Of what we can receive.

It seems the best I can do to protect me
Is to adapt to my generation’s ideals of
Friends with Benefits over Relationships.
Afterall the key to survival of the fittest
In this scientific society is adaptation.

But then I don’t think I’d be me anymore.
So what’s worse?
To love and give and end up empty?
Or to pretend I don’t care
To fit into the box
Of what my peers think relationships should be.

Wrote that Sunday.  Felt like sharing.  Hope you're all having a good week.


  1. I am sorry you are hurting. You are a smart, sweet, beautiful woman with a lot to offer and I pray you find mr. right soon :) .. PS Beautiful poem

  2. ugh, I do believe there are men out there who want what you are willing to give. Stay true to who you are and that person will materialize when you least expect it and probably in a way you didn't anticipate. in the mean time now that you've shed the weight start taking stock in the weight of your relationships (friends and lovers) -- after having gotten rid of some toxic friends, not only did I become more open to healthier and supportive friendships my marriage got so much better as well. Hang in there

  3. Keep your hope there are men out there that are looking for a special person to share there life with. My son is one of them I know 2 other guys that looking and all they find are girls who just either want their money or sex. I pray God will find you and they guys close to me will find the perfect mate. Don't give up. Keep fighting, I had lap band in may 2013, I love your blog.

  4. No one-sided relationship will ever last, romantic or not. You deserve to get as much as you are giving and so far you have not gotten that from the men you have dated. Don't give up, and don't trade in who you are and what you stand for, to be with someone who doesn't value you as much as they should. Stay strong, be true to yourself and one day your steel resolve and efforts will be rewarded. Hugs.

  5. I know people say it all the time, and it seems not true but you will find the one for you when you least expect it!

  6. I'm going through the same exact issue right now. It's rough but strong women come through even stronger. Hang in there.

  7. I'm so sorry you're hurting. One sided relationships never work. You need someone that will invest you as much as you invest in them.

    Hope things are going well for you!