Dating After Surgery (follow-up)

Wowwwwww..... I just wrote this whole blog on my iPad and deleted it...ughhhhhhhhhh........


So after my previous blogs about dating, I read all of your advice and some of your blogs. It seems that many of you who talked about dating were concerned about the guy you're seeing knowing you we're formerly fat. Well, for me, that isn't so much an issue yet as I'm still a plus size girl (currently size 16/18). Especially if I want to allow them into my social networking life, there's no hiding recent size 26 photos of me. And the way I see it, why would I want to?regardless of my weight, I still LOVE many of the memories those photos represent.

So, back to the point.... It would be near impossible to hide the fact that I was/am plus size and am losing weight. And really if the person I'm going out with has a problem with weight loss surgery for any reason, I'd rather know now than later. I understand why people hide it, as there are many people in my life who don't know. I just don't think I could hide it long term... I'm always an open book about things, so when there's something I feel like I can't be open about, it makes me uncomfortable.

And FYI, it went well. I told him after our second date and I think it was ok. He's still coming around so I guess it wasn't a deal breaker. :)

Comments

  1. UnknownDecember 23, 2012 at 10:29 PM

    Good for you! As far as I'm concerned, if they cant accept the truth they arent worth the effort!

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  2. ~Miss Lorie~December 24, 2012 at 1:39 PM

    I don't think they are worth having around if they find out and leave either... but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt sometimes.

    The hardest part for me and dating these days is the fact that sometimes my band just DOES NOT cooperate with me and food. That is just how it is and sometimes it draws attention that I'm not eating anything, and sometimes it doesn't . :) You'll find the balance that works for you!

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  3. HolleeDecember 25, 2012 at 3:41 AM

    I totally Understnad Lorie. My band is finicky...depending on how stressed I am and other factors. I love soup when I go out. Actually I don't, but my band does.

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  4. Nancie Anne FrazerDecember 9, 2015 at 3:03 AM

    That is just how it is and sometimes it draws attention that I'm not eating anything, and sometimes it doesn't . :) You'll find the balance that works for you!
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